The power of comm(unity)
First things first. We’re holding space for all of the people who've been on the political rollercoaster. There is soooooooo much to unpack.
Second thing’s second – you’re not alone. And never can be.
This month’s post focuses on practical ways to keep yourself anchored in community. Lean on the real ones during these times!
Recently, I was in a session with my therapist and I was asking her questions that were very much giving circles. I was going in loop after loop about why things are the way they are. “Why did this happen? Why is it important? Is it all in my head?”
Finally, I said “I just feel uncentered”.
She asked, “Well, what anchors you?” That reaaaalllllly threw me off. I had to stop to check in with myself and think about that.
“What do I anchor myself in? What values am I living by and do my actions reflect those values? Am I surrounding myself with people who support the way I live my life?”
Then, I was reminded of a bible verse earlier this week that my titi sent me.
“Bad company corrupts good character.” – 1 Corinthians 15:33
Jack mother freakin’ pot. And even if you're not a bible girlie, we all know the saying goes, “you are the company you keep.”
I'm intentional about who I bring into my world these days. But recently I've entered some new spaces and mixed and mingled with other groups. Naturally, people we don't know can resurface old habits. This can ruin the character I’m working so hard to build and sustain.
During times like this, we can’t afford to be vibrating low. It’s giving love and life only.
If you’ve been feeling like the boat is rocking you so hard, then this one’s for you.
I want to share some practical steps for you to check back in with your inner compass. As well as the community that you’re anchoring yourself in. (Especially just before you enter new spaces.):
What is my “centering practice”? A “centering practice” (as defined by moi) is a ritual that keeps me feeling like my 2 feet are walking on solid ground. For some people that’s church on Sundays, a morning routine, weekly yoga class, a book club, etc. These are key because they keep us connected to what is most important in our day to day – our being! If you don’t have one, find one that lights you up and makes you feel like you can live your truth.
What values does my “centering practice” uphold that I identify with? For me, I go to church every Sunday and we live by values like God is love and a hope for the future. After Sunday, I can take these values with me into my week and lean on them whenever I feel shaky. This space should empower you to be the best version of who you want to become.
What people am I leaning on to keep me on track of living a lifestyle according to these values? Am I prioritizing surrounding myself with those people? My relationship with God is my anchor. So I prioritize spaces and relationships that have the same anchor. My bible studies and Church coffee meetups are a priority on my calendar. Our relationships enhance what we’re anchoring ourselves in and keep us focused on the main thing. Living our truth and walking in purpose.
Times are going to continue "getting sticky", if you will. Do what's best for you. Protect your peace by making your way into spaces that will anchor you. And never feel the need to explain yourself!
Community is everything and it brings us together. I challenge you to invite someone to yoga, or your favorite book club.
Whatever you do, don’t journey this life alone.
